It's enough to break my heart. Last night Simon slept with a photo of Christopher (large, pointy, glass-enclosed picture that's usually on my nightstand). We had a rough night together which ended in a bit of discipline followed by a lot of prayer and hugs. Usually it's my sensitive girl who gets weepy at night and asks to sleep with the photo. So when Si asked for it, I had to reassess how I interact with this guy. At the top of my "take a deep breath and remember" list?: He's only three years old. I often treat him and Millie just the same when it comes to both physical capabilities (putting shoes on, getting snacks, etc) and emotional capacity (buck up, power through, keep on going). I need to cut him a break. Also at the top of that list?: Simon's energy and humor mask a very sensitive core. My boy likes the snuggles and probably internalizes the stress of the household. I need to slow down and sit and just be with him much more often.
So here we go...the learning, struggling and overcoming. Can't wait to see what our family looks like on the other side of this challenge. But really, just can't wait to BE on the other side of this challenge!
4 comments:
they need daddy dolls:) We had MANY nights like this. Prayer, it's the only way!
Sending prayers and virtual hugs your way.
What a lovely, yet heartbreaking, photo of Si.
Is he gone for 7 months now? Sew up the sleeves of one of his soft t-shirts and sew a soft piece of fabric over the neck. It becomes a pillow case or lovey that smells and reminds them of him. I did that for my kids & they sleep with them still. Or, mail me two of Christopher's shirts and I'll do it for you asap. Sending so much love your way.
Laura
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